You can be as creative as you like, but regardless of whether you’re using props, video footage or recreating famous scenes from the groom’s life using lego figures, bear in mind that the format of beginning, middle and end is a tried and tested one.
A simple format would be to begin by introducing yourself (e.g. how you know the groom) and your speech (e.g. ‘I thought I’d share some of the things that I’ve learned about the groom in the time I’ve known him’). The middle would then consist of some carefully chosen facts and stories about the groom, culminating in the final phase of a toast which sums up your hopes for the happy couple.
Although you’re the one with the responsibility to deliver the speech, there are loads of people who can help you with your material, by chipping in with stories, jokes and one-liners. It’s good if you can use material from all these different areas as it will make it accessible and enjoyable for the guests on the day.
- Speak to the groom’s parents and brothers and sisters. Siblings are an especially good source of embarrassing stories, they’ll probably also know where to find supporting evidence like photos, etc.
- Your fellow Stags will usually be best mates of the groom from all different areas of his life.
- The bride– in theory she should know him better than anyone!
One final thing about generating material is that best men often forget to ask themselves what they really want to say to the groom on the biggest day of his life. Even though most men would rather jump in nettles than say how they feel, an honest emotional reaction to the day, or a moment of seriousness can often provide a better toast than a thousand heard-it-before jokes.
When it comes to writing the speech there’s no easy way around it – you just have to get on with it. You should aim to have your first draft done before the Stag do, which then gives you a couple of weeks to edit and re-write and, of course, to practice.