Have a chat with the ushers a couple of weeks before the wedding and make sure they all know what they should be doing on the day. Make sure they know what their duties are – seating guests as they arrive, handing out service sheets, looking smart etc. Make sure they also know what the rules are for photography and confetti and that they communicate these to the guests. It’s a good idea to get their mobile numbers and save them on your phone just in case.
A few days before the wedding, there will probably be a rehearsal when you can check out the church/venue. Familiarise yourself with the layout and work out where things are going to be including toilets and parking etc.
It’s the groom’s job to pay for the minister, choir, organist etc but it’s the Best Man’s job to hand over the money. So make sure you know how much it will be and carry plenty of cash.
One of your traditional duties is to make sure the groom gets up early enough to make it to the church on time. You’ll also need to help him get dressed. Normally he wouldn’t need your help but on his wedding day he’s likely to be a bundle of nerves and his mind could be all over the place.
Before the ceremony, make sure that buttonholes have been catered for and that the service sheets are on hand. Aim to get to the church an hour before the ceremony.
At the church, ushers should be lined up ready to hand out hymn books and service sheets before showing guests to their seats. By now, you should know the seating plans having spoken to both the bride and groom’s parents. Traditionally, the bride’s family and friends sit on the left and groom’s on the right. The bride’s mother is usually escorted to her seat by the chief usher. You will probably be sitting in the front row on the right-hand side with the groom on your left.
After the ceremony, the bride and groom should leave first, followed by the bridesmaids and ushers, then the parents, then you and the chief bridesmaid. The Best Man should make loud announcements to let everyone know where to go.